How To Command The Respect of Others

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One of my personal growth success secrets is spending undistracted time with my mentors. Each meeting feels like being invited to shop in a security safe containing family jewels.

During one meeting, one of my peers asked, "What do I do if the people I lead no longer respect me? How can I command the respect of others?" 

My mentor responded, "If you are losing the respect of others, it's time to upgrade what you know." I humbly completed his sentence with the line, "And how you respond." 

 Now, let's put it together.

 If you are losing the respect of others, it's time to upgrade what you know and how you respond.

You might experience disrespect or disregard for several reasons, including a loss of admiration for what you do or a low regard for your perceived value. 

Here are 3 tangible instances and signs:

1. Your colleagues, acquaintances, or family don't care much about your opinion.

2. You've lost the genuine regard of your clients or customers.

3. Your team consistently delivers more value than you can keep up, and your gaps are becoming increasingly apparent to them. 

If you seek to remain relevant in your career or business, your commitment to a knowledge and behavior upgrade must be renewed often. Imagine a doctor who only serves patients with ancient medicine while living in a modern technology world. He might help patients with time-proven wisdom but may miss out on serving them better with new medical insights.

The goal is not to compete with others. The goal is to know how and when to uphold the value we bring. 

 First, do you have a solid plan to upgrade your "knowledge" value? Here are a few ideas:

1. Taking a course

2. Completing a certification

3. Reading a book

4. Joining a group

5. Leading a cause 

Second, upgrading your "response" value may include being quiet and creating a healthy distance. An instance is you being an example of maturity, discernment and discretion while in the presence of others. Here are some tips:

1. Create an air of mystery and resist the temptation of disclosing all of your details. 

2. Leave others to wonder why you are quiet. 

3. Leave your results to model and demonstrate your value. 

I call this the upgrade effect. 

Before you know it, others will start taking notes, you'll gain relevance again, and you'll quickly move from disregarded to admired.

 So, are you ready for an upgrade?

With Love from Your Dear Friend,  

VJ , Publisher

Founder, NOTIQ.com

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